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Thanks for this wonderful interview with my friend Trebor Healy. I enjoyed it, as I have enjoyed his work for many years. I am 77, and enjoying this decade probably more than any other. I loved middle age, and my 40s, 50s, and 60s were an amazing time to me. In my 40s I went through moments of pure euphoria, like just floating. They continued into my 50s; now in my 70s they have returned again. I am lucky in that physically I am in good shape, but my short time memory is about gone! I would say to Trebor, you have this gorgeous decade ahead of you, use it and love it. As for thst "long term relationship," it begins with every day. I have been in one for 43 years and know thst.

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"I will never golf." Trebor, we must have goals. . .

Thank you for a peek into that beautiful soul you've been building.

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"Life is school to me." Yes!

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Oct 23Liked by Sari Botton

Oh, I LOVE this one! "Life is school to me, and so I’ve always strove to become a better person and try to graduate with honors" was immediately copy-pasted into my Notes app list of good quotes, and it kept getting even better! Yes to prioritizing art and connections and service to others, yes to beautiful and challenging hikes as home and long-term relationship. And I feel a lot of resonance with Trebor's perspectives and insights on aging and dying, about approaching these milestones with curiosity and generosity, and about reframing "regrets" with gentleness and peacefulness.

Also: "I will never golf!" Lol, hard same!!

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"an adjustment going from visible to invisible." That applies to older people in general. Youth culture dominates whether one is straight, gay, male, female, etc., etc., etc.

As an older white woman who doesn't think of myself as old, I now very much appreciate when younger people help me wrangle my rollerbag in the overhead compartment or hold a door for me. I must remind them of their granny and that ain't such a bad thing, after all!

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Oct 23Liked by Sari Botton

Deeply valuing the humility and peace emanating from this Q&A.

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<3

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"...be yourself, do your thing, be bold, be courageous and true, and don’t let anyone tell you who you are." Good advice for anyone.

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Oct 23Liked by Sari Botton

I love this. And I can't get over the variety of good, interesting humans on this planet. Trebor, you are cool!

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I really like him!

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"Be awake, pay attention, fight for justice and kindness." An amazing set of aspirations!

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"Life is school to me" I love this philosophy and try to live it too.

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Same!

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Deeply moving. “Building a soul” is not a gender-based occupation. It’s open to all of us—gay, straight or in-between. Lots of openings, few takers. No “glass ceilings”! Sky’s the limit. Wisdom is the salary. 🙏🏻🦉

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Well said, Irwin.

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Oct 24Liked by Sari Botton

Such an amazing article from one truly amazing human.

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A beautiful humanitarian 💜

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Trebor’s accomplishments amaze and inspire me—I too want to learn a second language and live abroad—someday!

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I loved this! What a refreshing outlook on life.

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