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Also, Neko plays an SG, which, in the hands of a woman translates to: “don’t f**k with me.” Sister Rosetta Tharpe did too.

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Aug 31, 2023Liked by Sari Botton

& Joan Jett…

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Aug 30, 2023Liked by Sari Botton

Also am I the only one that wants to organize this damn belated 50th party?! There must be a beat the shit out of the patriarchy piñata tho 🪅 House rules.

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Mar 30Liked by Sari Botton

Vermont too cold but will send gifts ~ left coast Nature gifts!

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Im sure a lot of us missed having a 50th (me), so maybe we could have one massive one.

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Aug 30, 2023·edited Aug 30, 2023Liked by Sari Botton

I particularly appreciated this bit:

"I don’t have a particular aging idol but I have noticed that people with animals or a gardening habit often keep their activity higher and that is just so good for you and your body and your dog or horse or llama. People are meant to interact with the world, we aren’t just some blessed species for whom all else are secondary. We are healthiest when we are a part of the whole. We need and are needed by the earth, this reciprocity is crucial."

Yes! The older I get the more I realize that my life feels the most complete and satisfying when I'm just in the world in the simplest of ways-- working in the yard, walking in the woods, being with my kids or my partner just noodling around, petting my cat. Feeling like an integral part of a larger whole, which is the WORLD, rather than some conquering force or puppet master that's separate from everything.

Happy anniversary, Sari! And thank you, Neko!

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Thank you, Asha!

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I listen to Neko Case, Aimee Mann, and Brandi Carlile every day, and it does wonders for keeping me whole.

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Love that.

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Mar 31Liked by Sari Botton

Little Bombs. 🩵

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This is an aspiration in my book too. “I am not yet an elder, but I sure hope to be a good one one day.” Neko Case

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Yes!

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Aug 30, 2023Liked by Sari Botton

Re perimenopause werewolf (would be an amazing song title) please know there’s a great website full of info about what it’s really like and interviews w people going through it and really interesting hot flash explainers and free yoga practices at www.WTFopause.com

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Also know, this too shall end.

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Sep 4, 2023Liked by Sari Botton

Does it, though? I've heard that menopausal symptoms can last for a lifetime.

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Well lifetimes are subjective..or rather they vary. But menopause symptoms really don’t last forever. At one point you’ll think so, tho, trust me. Some ‘after effects’ may linger (uh, hello, what’s this leaking thing? Ugh. Not hormonal effects doc says, my parts are wearing out.) but by and large you’re free by 70. Yeah. 70.

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My mom is 83 and still has hot flashes! It varies from person to person.

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Oct 17Liked by Sari Botton

70??? Oh dear.

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Thanks, Carrie!

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Also, the menopause subreddit is chock full of helpful information and camaraderie. Highly recommend it! https://www.reddit.com/r/Menopause/s/HuBkAXI0Ye

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One for the ages. Every note of Blacklisted is permanently seared on my brain. If you get a chance to see Neko play live, DO NOT MISS IT.

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I love her line about appreciating her body the way you would a beloved aging dog. I never thought of my body as a trusty companion. I will endeavor to do so.

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This song means the world to me, as does all of her music -- "Guided by Wire"

"The voices that did comfort me

At furthest from my sanity

Come from places I had never seen

Even in my darkest recollection

There was someone singing my life back to me"

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Holy crap, Neko Case!!!!! I've been a fan since Furnace Room Lullaby, which I got after reading some coverage and then going into my local record store and having them order it out of a paper catalogue.

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I love that!

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I love these conversations more and more. Thank you, Sari!

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Awww, thanks, Andy!

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I’m 48 and honestly feel like I’m aging in reverse. I look and feel better than I did when I was in my insecure 20s and 30s. I’m two years from empty nest and 50 and can’t wait to be even more youthful. I love the wisdom and the zero fucks about what anyone thinks of me. So liberating!

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In ways I feel the same is happening to me. (Minus the arthritis and wrinkles and hair loss.)

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Mar 24Liked by Sari Botton

Love this! I just described myself yesterday as "aging in reverse".

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Lovely thoughts indeed! Thank you Sari for continuing to support us Older Rockers! Neko is such a gem. And hey, 58 (my age) is the new 28...but without all the late night partying and silly dramarama.

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🙏🙌🏼

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It's only the new 28 if 28 also includes menopause. ;) So -- no, it isn't. I think it's OK to say 58 is 58 and to not yearn for 28, which was a long, long time ago.

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Old as a term of respect. Love it!

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Me, too!

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I'm a Neko Case fan and love this interview. This Tornado Loves You is a tune I never tire of and must play LOUDl Maybe it's the percussion (I'm a drummer). Also saw her with kd lang and Laura Veirs (case/lang/veirs) at Bric Celebrates Brooklyn a few years back. Thanks, Sari, for this!

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<3

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Aug 30, 2023Liked by Sari Botton

yessss...all of my favorite concerts have been Neko. I've raised three Neko fans as well (hearing my then 10, now 21 year old belting out "I love Giiiiirls in white leather jackets...." gave me such joy!). I'm about to turn 56 and I'm going to not call myself old this year and hope it sticks until I've earned it. That's a lovely point so thanks for getting us this interview, Sari!

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<3

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