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Aug 2, 2023Liked by Sari Botton

Honest and insightful piece where ageing is neither all incredibly amazing nor a terrible blow: it's just life. The sentiment about recognising some friends did not reach the age of 50 made me nod in sad agreement.

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I relate to this so much. I met my late husband at 25, we were engaged and married at 26, gave birth at 27 to my only child and was widowed at 49 after two and half years of intense caregiving.

Now, at 50, I look in the mirror and am trying to figure out who the heck I am. My one concession is my hair. It's 100% gray and I went back to my "natural" color because it made me feel better. The rest? I could do without the dark spots, but I am definitely aging and wish there were other people who looked like me in my feeds.

For what would have been mine and my husband's 50th birthday, I took the trip to London we had planned. I'm trying to do the things he would want me to do, knowing it will honor his sense of adventure and help me find myself in this new world.

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So much to love in this! I very much appreciate the focus on a constantly evolving personal identity, which I wish every woman over 40 would embrace. I turn 50 this year and in some ways I don't recognize myself, but it's so much better than I thought it would be. Much love and support for your writing, and congrats on your new book!

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I only wish I could be 50 again.

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Beautiful interview.

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Aug 2, 2023Liked by Sari Botton

A beautiful set of responses from a beautiful woman I'm proud to call a colleague and friend. Rock on, Anjali! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

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Newly-minted 50 year old here too! I relate to so much of this, including the journey with auto-immune disease, and giving up gluten, dairy and alcohol. And I love your words about letting go of goals and focusing instead on contentment 😊 With aging definitely comes some shifting perspectives and, dare I say it, some wisdom. I wouldn't trade it for youth, despite all the struggles. Thanks for sharing your journey so openly and honestly ❤

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I was deeply touched by Anjali Enjeti's unabashed honesty. I love that she is feeling kindly towards herself. Anjali, don't freak out over the invisibility thing--hang out with older people. They're wiser, kinder, chastened by life, and you will be seen. Also you will do more seeing as well. Trust me, I know.

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The confidence and security in your identity comes in your 60's. So you have something to look forward to.

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Amazing lady! Thank you for this wonderful interview. And happy birthday fellow Leo!

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This is beautiful!

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50 is the new 30!

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dang, this one.

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Aug 2, 2023Liked by Sari Botton

love this. happy fifty, anjali! i am fifty today, too!

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Happy 50th to you, too, Mari!!!! 🎂

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Anjali, thanks for this terrific, honest, interview. Your voice is always clarifying to hear and read. I miss seeing you in real life!

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Love her honesty. She carries 50 quite beautifully despite some self deprecating descriptions. ❤️

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