Ice round up. We lost 2 greats this week who #Diditdifferently. Looking back at Jimmy Carter’s Kaleidoscope career has been a fascinating journey —and then thinking about the voice that remains with me forever —Peter Yarrow.
Re the "Your roots are showing" link: In comments and posts at Oldster over the years, I've read a lot about the movement of women not to cover their grey hair. I would be interested in knowing if there are any older women who do not have much or any grey hair, but people assume they are coloring their hair and how they feel about it.
Yesterday I had what has become an experience that is becoming more common. I met a wonderful older lesbian couple who I thought were about my age and we chatted for 45 minutes about interesting subjects and person experiences. Then one of them asked how old I was. I told them 73. "You look younger," she said, and the other nodded her head. I said, "Yeah, it's probably just my hair. I don't know why it hasn't turned grey yet," and they looked surprised and then I feel stupid and feel I have to say that my mother and her father had my color hair when they were my age and even older. Or I've gotten, "Oh,, that's your natural color?" I find it annoying. I don't know why I still have brown hair and I haven't tried to keep it brown. It just is.
I don't think anything is wrong with coloring your hair for men or women. When I was 19, I bleached my hair so that it was blond again (it started to turn brown after puberty). One of my brothers colors his hair. My father colored his hair until he retired. His mother and sister died in their 80s and 90s as blondes. My boss, a woman in her late 30s, and another female coworker in her 40s come into work with lots of different colored hair, including green, purple and blue. So does a male coworker in his mid-20s.
Sorry for this rant. But all older people do not have naturally grey hair.
I hear you, Richard. I have a cousin who is 84 who has no gray hair. I know a few others, too. I think coloring your hair is a fine choice. But I also think there is more pressure TO color your hair when you're older than the other way around, especially for women, and so there's a growing resistance, which is part of what Ilise's movie is about.
I haven't seen The Substance...because reviews have described it as very bloody/gory and I get nightmares easily...but I think it's way cool and overdue to have more movies that feature women in midlife. Sheesh, it takes so long to figure out who you are and how to live in a sexist world, so it's absolutely time to show more women living interesting lives and definitely time for midlife actresses and all the rest of us to start getting prizes for our surviving and thriving!!!
💘Thank you for posting that David Ulin piece! Hadn’t seen it. Such a heartbreaking time here in LA.
How awful. Thinking of you, Gina. <3
Thanks so much for including The Shift Sari x
Thank you for that thoughtful piece, Sam! And for including Laurie Stone's marriage essay for Oldster in your roundup today!
Ice round up. We lost 2 greats this week who #Diditdifferently. Looking back at Jimmy Carter’s Kaleidoscope career has been a fascinating journey —and then thinking about the voice that remains with me forever —Peter Yarrow.
Re the "Your roots are showing" link: In comments and posts at Oldster over the years, I've read a lot about the movement of women not to cover their grey hair. I would be interested in knowing if there are any older women who do not have much or any grey hair, but people assume they are coloring their hair and how they feel about it.
Yesterday I had what has become an experience that is becoming more common. I met a wonderful older lesbian couple who I thought were about my age and we chatted for 45 minutes about interesting subjects and person experiences. Then one of them asked how old I was. I told them 73. "You look younger," she said, and the other nodded her head. I said, "Yeah, it's probably just my hair. I don't know why it hasn't turned grey yet," and they looked surprised and then I feel stupid and feel I have to say that my mother and her father had my color hair when they were my age and even older. Or I've gotten, "Oh,, that's your natural color?" I find it annoying. I don't know why I still have brown hair and I haven't tried to keep it brown. It just is.
I don't think anything is wrong with coloring your hair for men or women. When I was 19, I bleached my hair so that it was blond again (it started to turn brown after puberty). One of my brothers colors his hair. My father colored his hair until he retired. His mother and sister died in their 80s and 90s as blondes. My boss, a woman in her late 30s, and another female coworker in her 40s come into work with lots of different colored hair, including green, purple and blue. So does a male coworker in his mid-20s.
Sorry for this rant. But all older people do not have naturally grey hair.
I hear you, Richard. I have a cousin who is 84 who has no gray hair. I know a few others, too. I think coloring your hair is a fine choice. But I also think there is more pressure TO color your hair when you're older than the other way around, especially for women, and so there's a growing resistance, which is part of what Ilise's movie is about.
Hi , thanks for the remembrance of Spaulding G, got to see him live way back in Tucson AZ- swimming to Cambodia - monster in a box- great stuff
He was incredible.
The Bar Mitzvah piece is a keeper!
That Spalding Grey article was excellent. Thanks for sharing.
So glad you enjoyed that.
I haven't seen The Substance...because reviews have described it as very bloody/gory and I get nightmares easily...but I think it's way cool and overdue to have more movies that feature women in midlife. Sheesh, it takes so long to figure out who you are and how to live in a sexist world, so it's absolutely time to show more women living interesting lives and definitely time for midlife actresses and all the rest of us to start getting prizes for our surviving and thriving!!!