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Really wonderful to have a trans story in this space. It’s been over 15 years since I transitioned, and I think a lot about the ways I’ll age and how I’ll experience elder care. I’m happy to see more stories like this, although 32 isn’t quite an “oldster”, ha!

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Thanks, Ethan. Happy to add more trans stories. PS Oldster isn't about "old people," it's about passing through time in a human body at every phase of life! https://oldster.substack.com/p/q-who-qualifies-as-an-oldster-a-everyone

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Thanks for the reminder!

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So much love and inspiration in this piece! Thanks for writing :)

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Moving story. Thank you for sharing it.

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Good on them for penning an emotive truthful piece!💞

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It can be a challenge when you are the spitting image of one of your parents..

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What a powerful and poignant read!

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Beautiful. What a cool gift, that resemblance.

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Beautiful. Inside and out.

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Deeply moving - what a terrific post. Thank you so much for sharing.

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Wonderful writing, beautiful expression. Thank you.

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This is beautiful.

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Very moving.

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I’m moved by the fear and the honesty in this, and by loving reckoning you’ve had with your father, his image, his influence. You’ve done the bravest reckoning of all, and I imagine he would be (or is) damn proud of you. Thank you for letting us in on this inspiring story.

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Just gorgeous writing, sigh 💕

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Wow. What a beautiful tribute both to your late father and to yourself. It is a travesty that we, as a society, made you resist, rather than embrace, being that brilliant, vibrant, carbon copy of your beloved father that you so obviously are. And it is a testament to your strength and courage that you found your way there in spite of the cruel and relentless anti-trans bigotry that we, as a nation, continue to embrace. May you continue to see both your father and your true self when you look in the mirror!

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Beautiful.

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