“ The obvious question I didn’t ask was: why didn’t the brothers hire a private nurse themselves, paid out of their own pocket until mom’s house was sold?”
While *they* may have been able to afford it (and I’m in awe, because I’m from a tax bracket that couldn’t), they probably knew what we all know, and which is why I’ve been living at …
“ The obvious question I didn’t ask was: why didn’t the brothers hire a private nurse themselves, paid out of their own pocket until mom’s house was sold?”
While *they* may have been able to afford it (and I’m in awe, because I’m from a tax bracket that couldn’t), they probably knew what we all know, and which is why I’ve been living at my 86 year old mother’s house for the last 18 months providing an informal “assisted living” situation for her: you just can’t trust strangers with your parents, as there really aren’t that many people (even at the “best” nursing homes) out there who are doing that job out of a love or even natural competence for it. They’re mostly (obv not all) in it for the money and don’t like their jobs, and are often overworked, unless you’re paying them really really well (which I gather not many people do).
And then there’s the personality of the patient: my mother happens to be so difficult due to personality disorders and what I’d generously call “cultural issues,” that it’s unlikely anyone would show up for work once she began her antics. This might help explain. The human factor. It throws a wrench into all rational plans.
“ The obvious question I didn’t ask was: why didn’t the brothers hire a private nurse themselves, paid out of their own pocket until mom’s house was sold?”
While *they* may have been able to afford it (and I’m in awe, because I’m from a tax bracket that couldn’t), they probably knew what we all know, and which is why I’ve been living at my 86 year old mother’s house for the last 18 months providing an informal “assisted living” situation for her: you just can’t trust strangers with your parents, as there really aren’t that many people (even at the “best” nursing homes) out there who are doing that job out of a love or even natural competence for it. They’re mostly (obv not all) in it for the money and don’t like their jobs, and are often overworked, unless you’re paying them really really well (which I gather not many people do).
And then there’s the personality of the patient: my mother happens to be so difficult due to personality disorders and what I’d generously call “cultural issues,” that it’s unlikely anyone would show up for work once she began her antics. This might help explain. The human factor. It throws a wrench into all rational plans.