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Thank you so much. I'm writing a book on porn and feminism, how there were/are major porn stars who are feminist role models.

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Yes, drugs are not allowed on many sets these days. There are strict ethical guidelines about consent, use of contraception, and testing testing testing.

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Yes!

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Sep 22, 2022Liked by Sari Botton

I'm so pleased to read an essay about our ongoing quest for sexual parity and pleasure. This experience, although from the writer's younger years, is now being told from the perspective of a "senior" woman. The arc of our search for ourselves as sexual humans is important to share. And to boldly write about this is refreshing. Last year I wrote a post for Huff Post about my quest for sexual parity and wanting to hire a man to satisfy my sexual needs.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/middle-age-sexual-needs-male-escort_n_617e9d7ae4b03072d7057203

(And this year Emma Thompson boldly portrayed a senior woman in "Good Luck to You Leo Grande" who in fact hires a male escort to provide her with sexual pleasure.) It's about time we challenge our sexist and ageist attitudes about women and sex.

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Sep 22, 2022Liked by Sari Botton

"I had a difficult time conceiving that porn could be an important and healthy revolutionary ingredient in the progress of feminism, actually affording an opportunity for women to assume ownership of their sexuality." - the main thought that I've been waiting to see because, well, porn isn't all of these things. And never have been. And never will be, unless we live in a perfect non-patriarchal world.

I personally have a hard time believing there are women who did porn (even after having a terrible experience!) and who still genuinely believe that porn could "liberate all women including yourself" or "open the way to your sexual inner goddess" or whatever else. I know my comment runs counter the essay but maybe someone needs to see it.

I don't want to shame those who does porn or who consumes it, I just want to remind that porn is mostly watched by men and the companies are run by men and the set crew is 99% men and it's just, well, says it all. It's amazing that Candida was able to fit in the industry but she is a fairly weak example of the "porn empowerment" because, well, she never made anyone's life better. She never made porn set a better place. Like you said, there's no way to film this without being under influence.

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Sep 22, 2022Liked by Sari Botton, Nancy Jainchill

“I didn’t yet know that I deserved to be there.” I couldn’t sum it up better. I’d still be there if not for a collision with a curious red lace bra. Joining you now 💕

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Jul 12, 2023·edited Jul 12, 2023Liked by Sari Botton

Fascinating read! Thanks for sharing your story 😊

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I really loved reading this! Thank you!

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I do wonder what has happened to feminist porn in the era of PornHub. Is it still being made? Or has it lost out financially to the ability to now view poorly made porn clips for free 24/7?

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Thanks so much.

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