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Peter Moore's avatar

I’m so grateful for the beautiful lives and perspectives shared here. I know I shouldn’t feel alone in aging, as I belong to the biggest generation ever! But I do sometimes. And Stephanie even gave me a new generation to belong to. I am a Joneser! Who knew? Thanks for taking me through your life and providing a new perspective on my own.

Stephanie Weaver's avatar

Peter, when I learned about Gen Jones it felt like such an aha moment. I have three older Boomer siblings and their experience has been so different than mine, but I heard their music playing. My younger brother is GenX and HIS experience is so different than mine. Thanks for reading and commenting.

Peter Moore's avatar

This is @Sari Botton ‘s world. We’re just fortunate enough to live in it.

Francine Fleishman's avatar

Stephanie Weaver is awesome. Her inner strength and her ability to tackle her personal demons is impressive. I loved reading her interview.

Simone Senisin's avatar

Totally enjoyed the relaxed candid honesty, thank you. May you and your husband enjoy that spontaneous combustion into space on your 50th anniversary… 🙏🏼😂💖

Stephanie Weaver's avatar

🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻💜😆

Ruth Bonapace's avatar

What a lovely and tender sentence: I would go back to that age only so I could meet my husband and experience falling in love with him again.

Deena Ackerman's avatar

I love starting the day with these essays!

What a full life Stephanie has lived.

Stephanie Weaver's avatar

Thanks for reading and commenting, Deena.

Holly Starley's avatar

Loved this interview. I’m just about to turn 50, so I love hearing that your 50s were so wonderful, Stephanie. And I love that you went from book to five books. 😍 I also was just diagnosed with an autoimmune disease. So I relate to how trauma can speak in us and transform us. Thank you for this inspiring interview.

And thank you, Sari. It’s funny. I’ve been reading these interviews for three years now and sort of find myself answering the questions in my head as I read. It’s interesting how, in just three years, the answers are evolving.

Stephanie Weaver's avatar

Holly, thanks so much for your perspective.

Sandi Gogol's avatar

Thank you for this thoughtful interview. At 75, I find that a lot of the anxiety and stress of my younger years is gone. I have rules around eating and working out. As long as I stick to my rules, I’m healthy and don’t have to think about what I’m going to eat or do each day. I’m not yearning to “get away” or “do something new”. Just like to have happy, safe, predictable days. I have perspective on why I’ve been the way I am throughout my life- not many friends, must have a book every day- and can accept myself the way I am.

Vi Mooberry's avatar

I absolutely adore the interviews I've read here. I love the commonality of the aging process and the shared thoughts about the stages we all go through. While I am 87 yrs. old, reading the thoughts of those who are in their 70's gives me a bond and a link to remember how I felt at that age. I am grateful for each day!

Stephanie Weaver's avatar

Thanks Vi. Sari is the best!

Cynthia Pierce's avatar

I'm joining the fan club for a "joint spontaneous combustion!"

Stephanie Weaver's avatar

It really is the best option.

Ellen Kornmehl MD's avatar

yes to the tailored bohemian..no clothes are only for the rich, thin, and young!

Lisa Cheek's avatar

Such a great interview! Love getting to know Stephanie better. And that photo with the panda rocks! Such an interesting life you have lead so far!

Stephanie Weaver's avatar

Right back at you, Lisa.

Vincent O'Keefe's avatar

Wow! Loved this one. I like that she emphasizes keeping up with tech, at least to a degree, as one ages: "Learned helplessness and refusing to keep up with technology. Both drive me batty, especially when there is some amazing age-supportive technology available and on the horizon that will help us all live independently. I hear my neighbors say they “don’t text” or they don’t know how to order groceries, and I want to scream." I saw my late father-in-law struggle mightily with tech in his 80s (despite our efforts to help him), and it was sad because he missed out on some of the extra photos/texts/interactions that could have happened with his grandchildren. On a different note, I love the promise Weaver and her husband made to each other--a 50th wedding anniversary "followed by a joint spontaneous combustion." Never heard that before!

Darby Lee Patterson's avatar

Thank you for saying - writing and going public about so many things that impact us as we age. It's challenging to have 'conversations' about this topic, and I think people are guarded about what they feel and are willing to reveal. The photo with this post is my grandmother, Blanche Darby, - who was an inspiration for aging with purpose and goodwill. I wish I could have said 'thank you' to her properly - other than taking her last name as my own when I was able to do that and now Proud to be an Oldster!

Deborah Page's avatar

Another great interview with a lot to relate to, although I’m almost 73. Living with a chronic condition but I wish I had her optimism, I still have a strong desire to travel but find this gets in my way a lot. And my husband is very healthy and finally retired and I don’t want to hold him back. And especially the difficulty of finding “age appropriate clothing” for what feels like a strange new body. Nothing that draws too much attention. But also why should it matter? I love that so many of these interviews talk about no longer caring what others think, and certainly being grateful for everything you can still do and enjoy.

Mallory's avatar

This was so good and gave me much to think about (and look forward to) as I creep toward my 50s!

Abby Alten Schwartz's avatar

Absolutely loved this interview. Stephanie is an amazing and inspiring person and a supportive friend as well.