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I liked everything about this interview, and this line made me laugh out loud: "I’m surprised by the number of celebrities who I don’t know the names of."

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I resonated with this interview as well. Some laugh out loud moments.

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"I like that I’m happier for other people’s successes than I used to be."

That is so, so true.

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This was a great one to read the day after my 67th birthday. Thank you, Grant. I also love "tears as prayer." I cry so often now I think I will look at it as such from now on. Thank you for that, too ♥️

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Happy birthday, Cindy!!!

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Thank you! 😍

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Happy 67th! May your tears take you far, inside and beyond. Crying really does have a holiness to it.

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man, did i need to read this today at 5:52 in the morning.

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This is one of my favorite interviews ever, just wonderful! I now want to read Grant Faulkner's book, "All The Comfort Sin Can Provide" and if he ever writes a memoir, will read it.

There's so much to love in this interview but especially loved the description of his grandfather:

"My grandfather on my mother’s side was also a pretty good ager. He died at 98 while reading the book I gave him for Christmas. When I first decided to be a writer as a 20-year-old, I lived in a shack on my grandparents’ farm, and he walked down to the farm from town every day and did strenuous things like bail hay. He was a thinker, a man who sang in the shower, a walker, a man who never followed the same path twice. He poured a stream of sugar in his iced tea and enjoyed a good piece of pie. He listened to people he disagreed with. He always had a gentle twinkle in his eye."

What an amazing man!

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Glad you enjoyed!

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Thanks so much, Deborah! He was an amazing man. If I can make it to 98 in the way he did, I'll be very happy.

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Hi Grant! This was so lovely to read. This honest, raw, vulnerable style (style? Voice? I need a better word) is why I enjoy your substack. I identified with so much of this it’s kind of funny. I think I have that bicentennial T-shirt. And yes, I want to do all those things- the long pilgrimage, the fancy cane etc.

my favorite line :Aging has given me the ability to cry. I cry for every crack breaking in the ceiling of my mind. That’s the way I let the light in. A form of prayer, I suppose.

Beautiful interview!

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Thanks for your kind words, Joanell—and thanks for reading! Ah, that bicentennial t-shirt. And it's good to know you're among the legions of criers. It's good for us, I think.

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What a wonderful interview this was with Grant. It was thought provoking and interesting in so many different ways. I will be thinking about and revisiting this interview today.

❤️❤️❤️Above all, though, I like the Dalai Lama’s definition of religion: kindness. Kindness, kindness, kindness. You can’t go wrong.

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I love these interviews so so much. I think they’ve become my favourite thing to read on the internet, and I read a LOT of things on the internet. I planned to just skim this quickly before going to bed but then got sucked in as I always do. I want to read this one over and over again and print it off and hang it up so I can keep referring to it. So many gems. Thank you, Grant, for sharing your wisdom and vulnerability with us readers.

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This makes me so happy!

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Oh, wow, thanks so much for your kind words, Stephanie! I really appreciate this.

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"I’d like to go on a lengthy spiritual pilgrimage." If you're a writer you're already on one : )

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Thanks for this interview, Grant and Sari! I relate to so much of it, and I love all the photos and portraits!

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standing ovation! thanks, grant and sari.

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💕

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This is great. I read your substack and I like knowing more about the man behind the posts. I could respond to so much. Two things though: "The math of every day, of every year..." Yes!

And when I turned 45, after grueling years of trying to make a baby, I decided to celebrate the end of that awful time with a half marathon. Since then, I try to do something memorable every five years, whether it's a physical challenge, a trip somewhere, and for 65 I got my MFA. Why wait 10 years.

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Love the every-five-years plan!

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congratulations - always keep on growing - I love the idea of turning aging on it's head - do more - what is next for you I wonder? why wait for 5 years

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I’m not!

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Congrats on getting an MFA! And ... I'm going to think about your 5-year plan. Why not increase milestones/experiences at this age?

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as finite beings why wait five years? the fact we are on here writing/righting we have a great deal of privilege - not to be wasted yet cherished

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Exactly!

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What a lovely start to my day – to "meet" Grant Faulkner. His writing and thoughtfulness seem so effortless to a reader. Entering Grant's world was like being rocked gently by a comforting friend. Damn! I needed that so badly! Thank you, Grant, and thank you, Sari, for another gem.

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Glad you enjoyed it, Ruth!!

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Hands down the best of your wonderful interviews. Ever.

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Thanks so much, Beth!

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Loved this interview. Stopped me in my tracks this morning in the best possible way. Will be thinking of it all day.

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The section on what surprises you…..it sang to me. Thank you

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