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Advice is just somebody else’s opinion ❤️

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Sam you look and sound terrific. But 58 is not old. I’m 75 and not “old”. I just started my Substack, The Final Quarter. Because that’s how I see it. It can be the most exciting meaningful time. Life is a continuum. Age is a construct placed on us. Ageism is a real thing aimed pretty much over 50. Worse as you get older.

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So true....every age is perfect there are no rules as to what is old! Because when they say old it ajudgement

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YES! I'm 74 and started a Substack and a book on writing. Nobody is going to define or limit me.

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Nov 13Liked by Sari Botton

58 is an unexpected fucking delight. Glad to read that is so for you too. I feel like my brain is finally decluttered. I can see what I want, love and need. I can ask for help and see where help is needed. And most days I can find my keys and glasses to get to my yoga class which preserves my ability to move my body.

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Nov 13Liked by Sari Botton

The not dying your hair thing... Thank you both Sam and Sari, you make me feel less alone

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<3

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Absolutely love Sam and was so happy to see her here. And the “over and out” at the end is exactly my sentiment.

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“Here, now. And I hope that will carry on, that I won’t need to answer this in a decade’s time and ask to go back to 58.”

This is the answer my Dad gave, when I asked him near the end of a long life what part was the best. (Actually, he just said, “Now.”)

It surprised me at the time. But it is the best answer, I think. Thank you for your view on it.

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Great interview! We love your work, Sam! 🌈 Amy at The Midst

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really loved this x

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Every time I read one of these interviews, I feel even more excited for my years to come! ✧ Similar to Sam, I met my husband when I was 20 (I'm now 40), and his love has helped me have the confidence to blossom into the woman I am today - especially when it comes to my writing. ♡ But I've gotta say -"Advice is somebody else's opinion" has just viscerally shifted something within me... THANK YOU! x

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Wonderful! Glad you enjoy these, Sonia.

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Oh how fortunate you are to live in Edinburgh—especially coming from a New Yorker these days. What “lit me up”, tipped me off, and left me wondering in response to your delight-filled piece is how to avoid the “swings and roundabouts”?

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Go, Sam! Love your perspective and excited to add your podcast to my rotation.

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The best age is the one you are at,.......it is the only one you have got so enjoy. The greater my chronological the younger I feel. I had my son whilst at university so definitely out of step..nothing has changed now but we all can choose and that is the biggest gift

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Nov 15Liked by Sari Botton

Love this SO much Sam. I was once told that for spiritual folk, their hair is their antenna… calling out to Spirit “Here I am!”

I agree, never cut it. It’s glorious.

In every decade after my twenties I’ve thought.. oh! This is the best! Until I got about mid way thru the next one, then my perspective grew to now THIS is the best decade.

I began my 70’s a year and a half ago, and I’m loving my new growth.

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Nov 15Liked by Sari Botton

I'm 58 and so happy in myself. I few years ago I was at a wedding of an incredible young woman in her late 20's, she gave the bride's speech in which she said of the groom, "When I met him it was like meeting myself, and I fucking LOVE me!" I've never forgotten that, and now I love me too!

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Love this!

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Love this interview and love hearing women busting the myths of aging by telling how their life got better with the passing years. It feels radical, counter-cultural, and much needed ❤

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Me, too!

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Love your new memoir, Sari! Gonna rate it highly on Goodreads.

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Thanks so much!!!

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