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"you are responsible for your own birthday and orgasm." This is the best advice! Thank you

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SO much great stuff here! BTW I gave up night cheese in my early 30s, and while it's been good for my system I still feel its absence in my soul, y'know? Nowadays I'm all about a good evening scoop of coconut yoghurt (but only on the weekends ;)

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I loved this! I would love to have a glass of Chardonnay with you!

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Jan 16, 2023Liked by Sari Botton

I love your honest voice. I have met many younger writers/people who are so much more self-aware and wise then I was at their age. I think, how did you get here so quickly? Is this what our world demands of them now? I was still figuring out what I thought about mundane things. And yes, chant on! remembering we are here to also be kind and gracious with ourselves.

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Jan 16, 2023Liked by Sari Botton

Thanks for the honesty. I am not gay .... but I have a ton of friends who are, and I have to admit, the conversations are not nearly so forthcoming. I guess that is on me? Not sure. But back to you ... congrats on your travel through life .... I think you are right where you need to be. Oh ... and I can relate to the stunned awareness that many young people today are wizards when compared to me, and my comparable knowledge at 20, 30 or 40. Great share ...

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Jan 16, 2023Liked by Sari Botton

This is great. This septuagenarian is going to take some of your advice

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Jan 16, 2023Liked by Sari Botton

I've never understood the thing his friend said, that "you will be famous but only after you are dead." I've had writer friends who actually have said the same thing about themselves. Do they not understand how death works? You'll be dead. You won't know if you are totally unknown or famous all over. You'll be unconscious! Who cares? And having dealt with first-year college students for nearly half a century, I can report that even in the mid 1970s, none of them had the slightest idea who Winston Churchill was. So nobody's going to remember you except maybe friends and family who will soon be dead and nobody will ever know you existed. Deal with it!

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