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Feb 22, 2022Liked by Sari Botton

We need more women like Heather on this planet. "Also, my new neighbor friend who’s 65 dyes her hair bright red and it feels a little bit like an announcement: HEY FUCK YOU. She’s not like that at all, but I could be." I can't love everything about her answers to this questionnaire enough.

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Love this: "when women say “I feel invisible now,” I want to tell them, “If that bothers you, maybe try wearing something bright orange?” We’re all the authors of our own stories. A little self-delusion is good for you. For me, it’s all about combining pretty with ugly."

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Feb 22, 2022Liked by Sari Botton

Great gobs of love to you Heather for all you’ve written so far and on and on into the future. Your answers here could/should become a manifesto. And yes, FUCK those milestones and bucket lists. And yes, early stage cancer treatment is so very interesting—meet Broccoli, my new best friend! Now, can I have the name of your therapist and share it with the world? More love to you and your attitude—signing off now as I get on with greeting the day.

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Thank you Sari and Heather.

Ahh, yes, so glad I discovered Oldster publication! I'm soon to be 61 and increasingly compelled to act on ______________. I've become more inwardly and outwardly radical concerning the B.S. I'll put up with in myself and others. Still carry around a bag of stinky regrets that I spent many many years ruminating on, but now, FINALLY/mostly, I've given myselft full permission to also enjoy my selection of other outrageous bags full of interesting "God Dams! I don't care and I'm going to do it adventures". Lately with music pumping, tyveck suited...tore down my basement ceiling insulation, now I'm almost done painting the ceiling white-- pipes and all to make the Art Studio I've been longing for , for decades! DON'T WAIT love to everyone here.

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<3

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Feb 24, 2022Liked by Sari Botton

"Women improve by the hour." Yes to this! Also to dressing like Grover on meth. (I think you just defined my style, Heather.)

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Dec 18, 2023Liked by Sari Botton

Heather is a gem. Really enjoyed this interview. Her line about taking each day as a gift is hilarious and spot on.

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Well that’s about the best thing ever.

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Brilliant!

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YES.

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I don't know if it's just because I'm turning 51 this year or not, but this made me happy.

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Feb 22, 2022Liked by Sari Botton

I love you to pieces. And "we match" -- right down to the earlier-stage breast cancer. I'm 61 so ... most of what you said, 10 years onward.

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i'd give an expendable digit to eavesdrop on this woman and Joyce Wadler discussing ball-gowns.....or hell.... anything this interview plows thru brick walls

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Sari, you are on my fire with your guests. I love it. 🔥🔥🔥🔥

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Thank you, Emma!! (This one is from Feb., 2022, but somehow it’s back in circulation!)

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Dec 22, 2023Liked by Sari Botton

I value every day. I do what I want when I want to with whom I want. It matters, I'm still here, still standing. Still laughing - and at 69, it matters. I only have so many fucks left to give!!!!

Thanks for this.....

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Thank you Sari and Heather for this brilliant interview. Heather you were put on this planet to uplift humans, especially women, everywhere and we love you for it. Wishing you a big birthday celebration soon!

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I always got a little frisson when I saw Heather’s name because...well the because is obvious in this interview. ❤️

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