So much of this was me at 47, although I wasn't as funny and I can't smoke weed because it makes me paranoid. "If only my neuroses could power the planet" is such a great line. My guess is, when you are 90, you will be the model that others will be turning to. Thank you for sharing.
This is so affirming, funny and wise. It matched so much of what I think. The key thing is appreciation -as well as recognising what's important, acting against the bullshit patriarchal racist capitalist system and living well.
"Oh, and guess what, babies? Sex is better than ever, too." SARA we are so lucky to have you in the world. Happy birthday and congrats on LECH — can't wait for the whole world to read it!
Growing old, sucks. And who came up with that one, I wonder? We've got almost 20 years between us--okay 17, but I was rounding up. I'll be 65 next March. We're empty-nesters. Our daughter moved out as soon as she hit 18, right after graduating from high school. That's what they mean when they say girls are more mature, because our son was the typical boomerang boy, in and out like bad sex, until he finally flew the coop at about twenty-seven. At 64, I'm still smoking pot. We tend to do edibles more often now because the wife has asthma. We drink a lot of wine and go out for dinners more than when the kids lived at home. (We can afford it now.) I'm at a point in my life when things should be in control, but you're never in control of your life, are you? You simply hang on and hope for the best. But I'm at a point in time where my friends are dying. I go to more funerals and celebrations of life than I do weddings and baptisms. I think that's what they mean when they say growing old sucks. It's not that your body falls apart--even though it does--but it's your friends. The one that worked out at the gym everyday and that was in robust health, and then dies of an aneurysm. The one you go on a trip with and then come back only to discover he has stage four cancer and will be dead in three months. There's the hearing loss, and the prescriptions for new glasses, the broken hips, arthritis, and dementia. So yeah, I guess they're right when then say growing old sucks...when you see it happening to your friends.
"It robbed me of my collagen and given me my soul." Love it! Thank you for your truth telling and humor.
She had me at patriarchal bullshit. ❤
So much of this was me at 47, although I wasn't as funny and I can't smoke weed because it makes me paranoid. "If only my neuroses could power the planet" is such a great line. My guess is, when you are 90, you will be the model that others will be turning to. Thank you for sharing.
This is so affirming, funny and wise. It matched so much of what I think. The key thing is appreciation -as well as recognising what's important, acting against the bullshit patriarchal racist capitalist system and living well.
Really appreciate this: "The alternative to aging is… so all kvetching aside, I’m inordinately grateful to be here in this fragile, resilient body."
Just wonderful! I’m 47 too, and forgetting all kinds of stuff! Having a whale of a time though. :D
I’m a decade older but truly identified with your spunkiness (holy shit i sound like my mother). Thanks for keeping it real!
"Oh, and guess what, babies? Sex is better than ever, too." SARA we are so lucky to have you in the world. Happy birthday and congrats on LECH — can't wait for the whole world to read it!
49 and here for all of this. I so deeply relate to much of it!! These Q&As are never not good, and this is one of my faves. Thanks, Sari and Sara!
Loved this one, thanks for it, Sari (and Sara). Sara, if you're still looking for a good moisturizer, read https://valeriemonroe.substack.com/p/unlikely-stories
xo
“I’m surrounded by old people.” What a candid fantastic piece! I can’t wait to read LECH!
Growing old, sucks. And who came up with that one, I wonder? We've got almost 20 years between us--okay 17, but I was rounding up. I'll be 65 next March. We're empty-nesters. Our daughter moved out as soon as she hit 18, right after graduating from high school. That's what they mean when they say girls are more mature, because our son was the typical boomerang boy, in and out like bad sex, until he finally flew the coop at about twenty-seven. At 64, I'm still smoking pot. We tend to do edibles more often now because the wife has asthma. We drink a lot of wine and go out for dinners more than when the kids lived at home. (We can afford it now.) I'm at a point in my life when things should be in control, but you're never in control of your life, are you? You simply hang on and hope for the best. But I'm at a point in time where my friends are dying. I go to more funerals and celebrations of life than I do weddings and baptisms. I think that's what they mean when they say growing old sucks. It's not that your body falls apart--even though it does--but it's your friends. The one that worked out at the gym everyday and that was in robust health, and then dies of an aneurysm. The one you go on a trip with and then come back only to discover he has stage four cancer and will be dead in three months. There's the hearing loss, and the prescriptions for new glasses, the broken hips, arthritis, and dementia. So yeah, I guess they're right when then say growing old sucks...when you see it happening to your friends.
"watching every last fuck fly out the window," says it all. I'm 47 and could relate so hard to all of it. I can't wait to dive into some of her books.