Mar 14, 2022Liked by Sari Botton, Julia Lee Barclay-Morton
What a dance of an essay, a pas-de-deux between you and Jani. The overall effect is so vibrant and multi-layered, for such a short piece, I feel like I know both you and her. You sound amazing, and Jani sounds amazing! I will absolutely buy this book when it get published.
Mar 19, 2022Liked by Sari Botton, Julia Lee Barclay-Morton
Please, please tell me Jani’s writings will be published somewhere. Can I just pay $39.99 to read everything whether it’s published or not? Not even kidding. What a reminder to write, even if you’re not being published. I’m glad she wrote down what she experienced and what she knew.
I am slightly older than the author. I was 24 in 1979. I am enormously grateful that it is pointed out in the piece that even though the womens’ movement was afoot, a woman at that time had no value whatsoever unless she was attached to a man. I was so proud to have gotten married a few months shy of my 30th birthday - just under the wire. Jani was an admirable woman - a real trailblazer. However, as someone whose husband cheated on me secretly for decades, I do view Jani’s involvement with married men as brutal. It is amazing the author mentioned this - a lot of credit for the honesty and non white washing portrait of Jani. Great article.
What if we’d all had a Jani? What a different world this would be.
What a dance of an essay, a pas-de-deux between you and Jani. The overall effect is so vibrant and multi-layered, for such a short piece, I feel like I know both you and her. You sound amazing, and Jani sounds amazing! I will absolutely buy this book when it get published.
Please, please tell me Jani’s writings will be published somewhere. Can I just pay $39.99 to read everything whether it’s published or not? Not even kidding. What a reminder to write, even if you’re not being published. I’m glad she wrote down what she experienced and what she knew.
Fantastic. I really really hope there's more.
Such a beautiful and honest portrayal of a dear and true pioneer.
Grand damn!
I love this.
Your grandmother is still an inspiration. Thank you.
I love this piece. All the more affecting for being rigorously unsentimental. And I feel I understand you a bit better.
I loved this essay. Coming from a difficult mother/daughter relationship, who abhored sexuality. "Don't be a whore."
"Stay pure and don't trust men."
"You don't touch yourself."
"Good women resist."
I had no sexual guidance whatsoever. I wish I had a Jani in my life.
Love the pivot in "...her soul entered my body..." This is a remarkable essay.
Enjoyed this essay. I do hope we will be able to read Jani’s essay in full some day!
I am slightly older than the author. I was 24 in 1979. I am enormously grateful that it is pointed out in the piece that even though the womens’ movement was afoot, a woman at that time had no value whatsoever unless she was attached to a man. I was so proud to have gotten married a few months shy of my 30th birthday - just under the wire. Jani was an admirable woman - a real trailblazer. However, as someone whose husband cheated on me secretly for decades, I do view Jani’s involvement with married men as brutal. It is amazing the author mentioned this - a lot of credit for the honesty and non white washing portrait of Jani. Great article.
I love this. I love her. Thank you!