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This is such a lovely essay!! hope your dad is still doing well.

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Thank you! He is!!

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Wonderful.

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Thank you, Abigail!

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I enjoyed your story very much.

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Thank you, Lloyd!

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Marvelous and touching! My dad is 97 and not charging along so I smiled wide at your story. How remarkable. It’s such a treat to have playmate parents.

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Thank you! It is a treat, indeed. I hope you're able to have precious times with your dad, as well.

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Lovely, inspiring

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Thank you, Megan!

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You and your dad are so lucky to have each other! And what struck me, somewhat humorously, was how your dad is so physically fit w/o needing athleisure wear or running shoes or spandex tights or any other paraphernalia we all think we need to stay in shape. In fact, he's wearing the same "street clothes" my own 91-year-old father wears for his global adventures.

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Haha. That made me laugh out loud. You're right! I'm glad your dad is out there having adventures as well!

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Inspiring! You are blessed to have your father still with you and healthy and strong. He sounds like a remarkable man and you are doubly lucky to share his DNA! Loved your words.

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Thank you so much, Laura!

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What gorgeous writing. I feel like I am up on those cobblestone roads, huffing and puffing behind your dad. Thank you, Jane Ratcliffe. I hope you are widely appreciated for your DNA-given talent.

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Oh, gosh, Lynn, thank you so much for your kind words!

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What wonderful and inspiring people you are. I miss my dad with a ferociousness I didn't expect. I am so happy for you that you are enjoying your time together.

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Thank you, Barbara! So sorry about your dad. It's beyond everything when we lose a parent. I feel extremely lucky to have this time together.

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Yes, it is beyond everything. The last few years of my dad's life we drew very close together and I was with him through his final day. It is a blessing to have had that time. He was 98 with the curiosity and intelligence of a much younger man. Thank you for your beautiful writing. It opened something very soft in me.

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Really lifted my spirits.

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Thank you, Susie. I'm glad!

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Great piece. I have a dad the same age so this resonated with me.

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Thanks, Richard. We're lucky, aren't we!

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What a beautiful essay.

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Thanks, Liane!

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💛💛

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Thank you, Janet!

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Happy birthday to your remarkable father! What a beautiful essay. Thank you. Up you go.

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Thanks, Tammy! I'll pass along your birthday wishes!

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Hi again Jane. Could I just ask you a question about your father, and I hope it's not too personal, in which case please don't respond. I am asking because as I told you I have a father the same age. Here's my question: Does your father need help with technology? Just today (and it's not even 1 pm) I have had to help my 95yo dad with about 4 technology things. Can your father easily use a TV, go from cable channels to streaming and move among streaming services? Can your father use a computer? My father can't, so if he wants a basketball score, I have to look it up online. Can your father use a smartphone? My father can't do some things on a flip phone, like this morning he got a text message from his girlfriend's housekeeper who lost her phone number and wanted to say she is not coming in today because she is ill. He doesn't know how to find the text message or respond to it. Another thing is an electronic payment -- he didn't get a credit card bill so I had to call up and have the payment sent before the deadline coming up soon, and so I had to make an electronic payment from his checking account. Usually he writes out checks and mails them out (spending on postage stamps) for every bill and he won't let us use electronic payments. I could go on. . . My father never learned to use a microcomputer even when required to get one for his job in his later years. (I offered to teach him -- at one time, back in the early 1980s I had a job teaching public school teachers to use computers in their classrooms! -- but he declined.)

I'm 70 and while I can't use every new technology, I find my father's lack of familiarity with technology probably the most difficult thing about dealing with him. I couldn't tell from your article if your father is tech-literate. I don't know too many people in their mid to late 90s who are. None of my aunts or uncles were, nor was my mom.

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