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Dear Julia -- if it’s any consolation, and I suspect it isn’t-- i eulogized my wife Fran on Friday. All the words were said between us and feelings expressed, with honesty, humor, anger and directness. And she died at home--everyone’s dream but hers. She wanted more life. That’s all.

But the pain of loss is brutal. Whether “late” or “anticipated” or “pre-planned” or in “fucking retrospect”.

When I retrieve them, I’m hoping that scattering her ashes in a ocean she loved and in which she swam and gamboled like a fish in will be right on time. I hope you find peace. I hope I find peace.

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Thank you Sari. I am flooded with memories, many of them of her suffering for 30 years with 4 cancers and every conceivable treatment. I hope those wash away like sand in a in a kid’s beach sieve and what remains will beautiful shells and ocean-polished glass and the occasional skittle of a tiny crab. That will be her.

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